A polyamorous family of men has succeeded in putting all three of their names on the birth certificate of a baby boy. Now, the “throuple” is opening up about their polyamorous lifestyle and how it works so well for them. The men, Doctor Ian Jenkins, 45, and his partners Alan Mayfield and Jeremy Allen Hodges, from San Diego, broke legal ground in 2017 when a San Diego judge agreed to put all three men on the birth certificate of their daughter, 3-year-old Piper.
While this legal decision meant a lot of this “throuple,” it also opened up a pathway for other polyamorous families to receive recognition. But the three men are not done yet. Besides publishing a book about their family unit, the throuple has now put all three of their names on the birth certificate of their 14-month-old son, Parker. Piper and Parker are biologically half-siblings because the throuple used an egg donor and a surrogate.
The children refer to Jeremy as “daddy,” Alan as “dada,” and Ian as “papa.”
Ian says that his “unique family” is not that bizarre as they are “just three tame, regular people who spend a lot of time talking about what to have for dinner.”
Ian and Alan have been partners for seventeen years. Jeremy has been part of the throuple for the last eight years.
The family has released a new book written by Ian. The title is Three Dads and a Baby, which is a play off the title of the 1987 smash hit movie, Three Men and a Baby. The book will be published next year in March by Cleis Press and Simon and Schuster.
The book will tell the family’s unique story as well as how they have been able to develop a “consistent parenting style.”
“We did have a slight attention to the fact that our kids might be perceived differently,” Ian told HuffPost. “We didn’t want them to become a target of teasing or bullying or online abuse.”
So far, the family has experienced “zero push back” which has given them hope in America.
“Our oldest now is in preschool, and the other parents and kids are like, ‘Cool! Tell us that story,’” Ian added.
Ian said that the key to success for a polyamorous family is “continuous conversation.”
Ian said: “When our oldest develops the ability to have a tantrum like a reactor breaking down in Chernobyl, we all have to be on the same page. What’s the best approach? How much time for a time out? What do you call it? Does the parent need help, or is it adding fuel to the fire?”
Now the throuple is dealing with a common problem many parents deal with. When a child chooses a “favorite parent.”
“Piper has a favorite parent, and that’s Jeremy,” Ian said. “There are many times it’s been harder for me to connect with her because she wants Daddy. We’ve developed a strategy for an evening the workload, so Jeremy doesn’t feel worn out, and I get to share in the joys of having her. We all have different roles. Right now, one of the best things is teaching her reading.”
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